Mary Hubbard

1784 - 1871  (87 years)

• Name	Mary Hubbard  [1, 2, 3]
  Birth	1 Feb 1784	Fireplace, Suffolk, New York, United States   [4]
  Gender	Female
  Burial	1871	South Haven Presbyterian Church Cemetery, South Haven, Suffolk, New York, United States   [4]
  Death	15 May 1871	Setauket, Suffolk, New York, United States
  Death	15 May 1871	Setauket, Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY   [2, 4]
  	Cause: She is said to have died at the home of her son, Nehemiah "Boss" Hand.
  Person ID	I5815	My Genealogy
  Last Modified	17 Sep 2023

  
  

  Father	Christopher Hubbard,   b. Abt 1755   d. Yes, date unknown
  Mother	Margaret Hines,   b. 1759, Amherst, Amherst, Virginia, United States d. 16 Apr 1806 (Age 47 years)
  Family ID	F11621	Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

  
  

  Family 1	Nehemiah Hand, ^,   b. 26 Sep 1772, Setauket, Suffolk, New York, United States d. 5 Nov 1813, Bellport, in Atlantic Ocean (off of Fire Island) (Age 41 years)
  Marriage	Abt 1800  [3, 5]
  Children	1. William Hand, ^,   b. Abt 1800, {Fire Place (now Brookhaven), Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY} d. Yes, date unknown   2. Silas Hand, ^,   b. Abt 1802, {Fire Place (now Brookhaven), Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY} d. Yes, date unknown   3. Huldah Hand, ^,   b. 1 Aug 1804, New York, United States d. 23 Dec 1871, {Fire Place (now Brookhaven), Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY} (Age 67 years)   4. Hiram Hand, ^,   b. Abt 1811, {Fire Place (now Brookhaven), Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY} d. Yes, date unknown   5. Nehemiah Hand, ^,   b. 19 Jan 1814, Fire Place (now Brookhaven Hamlet), Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY d. 14 Nov 1894, Setauket, Brookhaven, Suffolk, NY (Age 80 years)   6. Hiram Hand,   b. 1810, , Suffolk, New York, USA   7. Nehemiah Hand,   b. 19 Jan 1814, Suffolk, New York, United States d. 19 Nov 1894, Setauket, Suffolk, New York, United States (Age 80 years)   8. William Hand,   b. 1803, Suffolk, New York, United States   9. Silas Hand,   b. 12 Jan 1802, Setauket, Suffolk, New York, United States d. 4 Dec 1875, South Haven, Suffolk, New York, United States (Age 73 years)
  Family ID	F2794	Group Sheet  |  Family Chart
  Last Modified	27 May 2025

  
  

  Family 2	Thomas Wood Rowland,   b. 5 Apr 1758, Islip, Suffolk, New York, United States d. 8 Mar 1836, Fireplace, Suffolk, New York, United States (Age 77 years)
  Marriage	25 Dec 1814  [2, 3]
  Children	1. Thomas Wood Rowland, <,   b. 5 Apr 1821, Fireplace, East Hampton, Suffolk, New York, United States d. 1 Sep 1900, Setauket, Brookhaven, Suffolk, New York, United States (Age 79 years)   2. Thomas Wood Ruland,   b. Aft 1814   d. Yes, date unknown
  Family ID	F2795	Group Sheet  |  Family Chart
  Last Modified	27 May 2025

  
  

  Family 3	David DeForrest,   b. Abt 1781   d. Yes, date unknown
  Family ID	F2796	Group Sheet  |  Family Chart
  Last Modified	27 May 2025

  
  

  Family 4	David L. Deforest,   b. Between 1761 and 1770   d. Between 1840 - 1850, DEFINITELY Before 13 Apr 1855 (Age 94 years)
  Family ID	F10119	Group Sheet  |  Family Chart
  Last Modified	27 May 2025

  
  

• Notes

  [Some researchers have indicated that Mary's birth surname was Hubbard. I have not yet found supportive documentation.] [On the other hand, her son Nehemiah's testimony in Munsell indicated that her surname was Mapes ("My mother was a daughter of General Mapes, who came to this country during the Revolutionary war."). A notation by an unidentified hand in a 1925 survey of the gravestones at the South Haven Presbyterian Church cemetery also indicated Mapes.] [If Nehemiah's reference was to General Jonas Mapes (this is the only General Mapes I've so far been able to identify), he was of Southold, the son of James Mapes and Deliverance Hawkins. Jonas was born 6 Sep 1768, and would have been only a little over fifteen when Mary was born in 1784. There is no record of his having a daughter Mary.] [I suspect that Mary's birth surname was Mapes, but that she was fancifully connected to the prominent General Mapes by her son Nehemiah.]

  
  

• Sources

  [S35] Munsell's History of Suffolk County, New York, with Illustrations, Portraits, & Sketches of Prominent Families and Individuals (W. W. Munsell & Co., New York. 1882.), p. 84. [S21] Robert H. Sweezey, Sweezey.com and Sweezey.net, http://www.sweezey.com/genealogy/getperson.php?personID=I17969&tree=. Bob Sweezey quotes the following found at the Ancestry.com Message Board, written by B. Randall. I have not been able to locate this source: "Nehemiah Hand, a farmer, drowned at Smith's Point Inlet at the age of 41 years, 1 month and 10 days on November 5, 1813. He was married to Mary Hubbard and left her and eight children - the youngest, Nehemaih Hand, born after his death. Mary Hubbard Hand was born 2/1/1784 at Fireplace, Long Island, NY and died at the home of her son, Nehemiah "Boss" Hand in Setauket on 5/15/1871. She remarried Thomas Wood Rowland 12/25/1814, and her third husband was David DeForrest. She and Thomas Wood Rowland had five children. Who were Mary's parents? Who were her children with Nehemaih - I have Hiram, William, Hulda, Silas, Nehemiah but do not have the names of the other three children. Her son Nehemiah was a shipbuider in Setauket. He and his first wife, Mary Bennett, had three children - Robert, George and ?. He married #2 Phoebe Etta Tyler of Smithtown and #3 Mary Call. I am seeking information on Mary, her parents and her children." [S38] Cemetery: South Haven Presbyterian Church (1925 & 1938), Stone 6. Mary Mape's gravestone listed all her husbands -- Nehemiah Hand, T. W. Rowland, and David DeForest [S38] Cemetery: South Haven Presbyterian Church (1925 & 1938), Stone 6. [S35] Munsell's History of Suffolk County, New York, with Illustrations, Portraits, & Sketches of Prominent Families and Individuals (W. W. Munsell & Co., New York. 1882.), p. 84. Son Nehemiah testified that at the death of his father, "My mother being left with five small children to care for."